Monday, January 30, 2012

A good dose of Self Esteem

Self Esteem is not to be confused with over confidence. A healthy dose of the ego is vital for survival. What self esteem means is approval of the self. We know that we are a worthy human being. Like I heard in a song ‘I also have a role to play’. I think it was Tom Petty. Another aspect of self esteem is to treat all people as equal, with due respect wherever it is to be shown.

Whereas over confidence is when a person believes that he is God’s gift to mankind. Confidence is self esteem, mind you not lower or higher, but just enough to lead a balanced life. Over confidence is not good in the long run. You can believe that you are the best, but it is relative. There are many bests around, and the next Johnny best is just around the corner.

Under confidence or low self esteem if I may call that can also prove detrimental. To the whole well being. Situated in this position, we view everything thing from a lens of doubt and suspicion. It’s almost like a psychological affliction, except for the fact that where you draw the line is not clear. There are many ways we can cure ourselves of this setback. One is affirmations.

Overall a good self esteem or I would just use the term self esteem can easily raft us across this journey called life. We learn to control ourselves, respect people and generally contribute to the welfare of mankind. We need to analyze ourselves and accept where we are and work towards the normal. Remember what Lord Krishna says in the Bhagvad Gita – the key word ‘moderation’ – in everything. The middle path is the best. Avoid the extremes.

To your success …

Guru30

2 comments:

Mike said...

You are worthy because you are, not because you THINK you are, but because you KNOW you are, in truth.

So EGO is not vital and the thought you are worthy is just more ego -- a false sense of self due to identification with thoughts about myself.

Rajesh Menon said...

Thank you Mike. This insight was helpful